BackWho you’re talking to dictates what you say. Review our Communication Styles if you haven’t already. And remember: These examples show communication skills, and do not indicate correct or incorrect viewpoints.
Choose the communication style of the person you’re speaking to:
If you hear them say…
“What does our family police apologist think about that?”
👍 Try this…
“He thinks he’s going to keep eating this great dinner. Can someone pass the turkey?”
- Deflecting with humor can defuse a Sniper.
👎 Avoid this…
“At least I’m not an apologist for criminals.”
- Never return a Sniper’s put downs.
If you hear them say…
“I wonder if our anti-police family member would call the police or a social worker if there was a burglary.”
👍 Try this…
“Actually, I would wrestle the burglar to the ground myself.”
- Exaggerated humor shows you have not been hooked.
👎 Avoid this…
“I’m so sick of your sarcasm.”
- If you want to confront a Sniper, do so in private.
If you hear them say…
“With the way you’re defending police brutality, someone might mistake you for a racist.”
👍 Try this…
“Is there a point you’re trying to make?”
- Snipers usually aren’t looking for meaningful engagement. Instead put the ball back in their court.
👎 Avoid this…
“How dare you call me a racist!”
- If a Sniper baits you, don't engage.
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